Real true love is unconditional. All other “kinds” of love are not really love. Most parents and kids don’t love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks dat way. To love someone unconditionally means dat you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say dat bout their kids? How many people can say dat bout their “lover”? Love is not bout you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not bout what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not bout having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “Dis is *MY* girlfriend /boyfriend/ wife/ husband/son /daughter /whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not bout you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means dat the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.
So, how does unconditional love fit in with relationships and marriage and sex and all dat stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? It doesn’t, really. It doesn’t “fit” in anywhere. Relationships are like trying to put love into a box and keep it there, except love is infinitely sized, and the box is… well, there is no box large enough. And a normal, conventional marriage is quite possibly the worst possible way to show someone how much you love them.
Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with dat person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.
In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned bout it from society and anyone else (including what I just said). You are the only person who can tell you what love is. The only reason I’m writing all dis stuff is because people always try to fit “love” in with things like dating, relationships and marriage and all dat. You can’t make any sense of it if you keep doing dat. You have to get rid of everything you think you know first.
